According to the scriptures, there are eight types of marriages. These types of marriages are – Brahma, Daiva, Arsha, Prajapatya, Asura, Gandharva, Rakshasa, and Vampire. Out of the above eight marriages, only Brahma marriage has been recognized, the rest of the marriages are not considered according to religion. However, in this, the marriage of God was also recognized in ancient times. Prajapatya, Asura, Gandharva, Rakshasa, and Vampire marriages are considered extremely inauspicious.
Hindu marriage is not a means of indulgence, it is a religious ceremony. Sanskar leads to inner purification and only in a pure conscience, married life can be spent happily. Brahma marriage has been included in 16 sacraments.
1. Brahma Vivah: With the consent of both the parties, fixing the marriage according to the wishes of the girl with a suitable groom of equal class is called ‘Brahma Vivah’. Rules & rituals from Vedic era are practiced in such a marriage. This is the best marriage.
2. Dev Vivah: Giving one’s daughter to a particular groom for any service, religious work, or purpose or as a value is called ‘Diva Vivah’. But the desire of the girl cannot be ignored in this. This is a medium marriage.
3. Arsh Vivah: Marrying a girl by giving the value of the girl (usually by donating a cow) to the girl-partners is called ‘Arsh Vivah’. This is a medium marriage.
4. Prajapatya Marriage:- Without the consent of the girl’s parents, her marriage to the groom of the elite class (wealthy and prestigious) is called ‘Prajapatya marriage’.
5. Gandharva Vivah:- The present form of this marriage is love marriage. Without the consent of the family members, the marriage of the bride and the bridegroom without any customs among themselves is called ‘Gandharva Vivah’. At present, it is done only for sexual attraction and money gratification, but its name is given to love marriage. Its new form is also considered to be live-in relationship.
6. Asur marriage:- Getting a girl married (financially) after buying it is called ‘Asura marriage’.
7. Rakshasa marriage:- Without the consent of the girl, kidnapping her and forcibly getting married is called ‘Rakshas Vivah’.
8. Paishach Vivah: – Taking advantage of the intoxication (deep sleep, mental weakness, etc.) of the girl, to make physical relation with her and marry her is called ‘Paisach Vivah’.
Brahma Vivah: According to Hindu religion, marriage is such karma or sacrament which needs to be done very thoughtfully and wisely. Long-distance relationships need to be investigated. When both the parties are satisfied in all respects then only auspicious time is taken for the marriage. After this, special arrangements, goddess worship, grooming, tilak, haridralep, door worship, mangalashtak, handpicking, maryadakaran, paanigrahan, gland-bandhan, vows, atonement, celibacy, saptapadi, oath assurance, etc.
With the consent of both the parties, fixing the marriage of a girl with a suitable groom of equal class is called ‘Brahma Vivah’. Vedic customs & rituals are used in this marriage. Kundli matching is done properly in this marriage. Manglik Dosh can become a hindrance only by 20 percent. That too when in the eighth and twelfth house of both Ashtmesh and Dwadashesh they get 5 or more marks. If the horoscope is found in cases other than Manglik, then the marriage is ensured. Hence Mangal Dosh is not a big problem.
After the confession of dignity by the groom, the girl should hand over her hand to the groom and the groom will hand over his hand to the girl. In this way, both embrace each other. This action is like shaking hands. As if holding each other and supporting. This is not an act of giving a bride like a bride, yet on that occasion, the feeling of the bridegroom should be the same as it is while handing over his hand to the girl. The groom should also feel that he has made this bride the center of his personality to conduct his desire, aspiration, and activities and also handed over his hand. When both of them hold each other’s hand passionately in front of the society to pursue each other, then it should be understood that the purpose of marriage has been fulfilled.
There are three debts on human beings – Dev-Run, Rishi-Run, and Pitri-Run. Pitru debt is rectified by producing virtuous and virtuous sons worthy of performing Shradh-tarpan for ancestors by performing yagya-yagadi to the gods, self-study by the sages, and marrying Brahma in a proper manner. In this way, the ultimate aim of marriage is to produce children in order to preserve the tradition of serving the ancestors and the following righteousness. This is the reason why Brahma marriage is recognized as a sacred sacrament in Hinduism.