Arranged Marriage In Islam
September 07, 2022 | matrimony
Arranged marriage in islam , Terms of marriage
Nabi Karim sallallahu 'alaihe wasallam (s.a.w.) said that 'Nikah is my Sunnah' it means to marry or to marry is not only a legal formality but it is also a blessing from the Prophet Muhammad S.A.W. The Sunnah is also to be followed. This reality does not diminish the importance of getting married, but makes it clear that if a person is not capable of getting married, he has not committed any crime.
The Arabic word nikhun means to bring together and to absorb. If a man and a woman want to be united, then the minimum condition will be that both the parties agree to the marriage, which will make the two partners (partners) for the rest of their lives. Therefore, it is important for both of them to be familiar with the conditions, rights and responsibilities of marriage.
Marriage in Islam is a legal agreement between two people in which both parties agree to all the terms of the agreement, which is called a strong relationship (4:21). The terms of marriage can be anything. But these conditions should not go against Islamic principles. It is not a sacred sacrament that binds two people together forever. This means that the agreement can be terminated on the basis of special conditions recorded in Surah Talaq, Surah al-Baqara and Surah al-Nisa of the Quran.
At the time of marriage, both the man and the woman are asked whether they have accepted the marriage, it means that without their consent, the marriage is invalid. The Quran instructs believers not to forcefully marry women.
'Momino! You are not allowed to forcibly inherit women (4:19). Here it refers to the pre-Islamic rituals of marriage, but from a broader perspective it also refers to forced marriage, which has become common in many Muslim societies.
The marriage should not be done secretly, but should be done through an announcement in front of the guests.
In this way all the guests will be witnesses and will be involved in the noble act that is being done. According to Maulana Omair Ahmed Usmani, it is imperative to have two witnesses at the time of marriage. It should be two men or two women, who are Muslims and also adults and should also be aware of what happens in a Muslim marriage.
As per custom, a legal wali (guardian) should be present. The Huffi ideology allows women for marriage to choose a lawyer of their choice, who will act on their behalf at the time of marriage. The man and woman seeking marriage should be of equal status. According to modern norms, this status is equal in terms of social, economic and educational status and age. The woman should not be in the forbidden period of iddat due to the death or divorce of her husband.
Meher or money given by the groom to the bride at the time of marriage is also one of the conditions of Nikah and should be agreed upon by both the parties. As far as possible, Meher should be paid to the bride on the very first day. Sometimes Meher is in the possession of the bride's brother or father and she is never able to see him. This leaves the effect of selling. And it can actually happen. The woman has the right on the meher, no one else has any right on it and if the woman later demands for divorce, then she should return the meher. (2:229)
When the woman gives permission, then the one who is teaching the marriage should first read the khutba of the marriage and she should also read the Astghfar. The agreed amount of Maher should also be declared. After this the groom should clearly say that he has accepted the marriage, and only then the bride and groom become legally married and they get the right to live together, and it should not be delayed for minor reasons. Should do