Punjabi wedding rituals
Punjabi people are fun-loving, they not only love to party, but they are also a good host. As it is their nature that their marriages are fun. Punjabi weddings are filled with music, dance and unlimited entertainment. No matter if the wedding is simple or grand, it is fun. Punjabi weddings are colorful and loud. A Punjabi wedding is almost like a roller ride, filled with a lot of emotions. It starts off happily but as the rituals go along the family members feel emotionally vulnerable as their beloved daughter of the house is going to get married soon. Let's take a ride on this roller coaster going through the various wedding rituals of Punjabi wedding.
Punjabi wedding rituals begin with the Roka ceremony. The bride's family blesses the groom with gifts like fruits and sweets for the groom and his family. This ceremony is celebrated only at the place of the groom. This custom is called Roka. The bride is usually not present in the roka.
Sagan and Chunni chadai
In the Sagan ceremony, tika is applied on the forehead by the father of the groom. During the deafening ceremony, the groom's sister, mother and other women of the family place red chunri on the bride's head and bless her and offer her sweets, clothes and ornaments. This ceremony is called Chunni Chadhai.
This ritual typically occurs on the same day as the Chunni Chadhai ritual. The ceremony officially announces the couple's engagement. The engagement ceremony is a grand ceremony. In the engagement ceremony, the couple exchanges rings between their family and near and Dheeraj. Both the families also exchange gifts and presents.
Mehendi and Sangeet Ceremony
The mehandi ceremony is conducted not only at the bride's place but also at the bride's place. Henna paste is applied on the hands and feet of the bride. In the past, family members apply henna paste on their own but now professional mehndi artists take up this role. Usually, the Mehndi ceremony is celebrated a day or two before the wedding day. At the place of the groom, family members and close relatives (women) apply henna on their hands and feet. The ceremony is full of lots of dancing and fun and frolic.
Often on the same evening or night, a women's sangeet is arranged, where all the women come close to the bride and family and sing and dance. Women sing Punjabi folk wedding songs while dhol, dance and also tease the bride.
Sangeet ceremony is no doubt the most entertaining and fun-filled ceremony of a Punjabi wedding!
The night just before the wedding, the whole family stays up till late in the night and celebrates the wake in the early hours of the morning. Jago means "to stay awake". This ceremony is celebrated at the places of the bride and groom. The idea is to celebrate by dancing and singing.
On the morning of the auspicious day of marriage, puja is performed at the homes of the bride and groom. The bride and groom participate in the puja and a sacred thread or mouli is tied around the wrist of their right hand. Mauli is adorned with cowries (shells) and supari (betel nut). Molly will need to knot as many times as possible so that it becomes more difficult to untie it later.
In essence, "chooda" refers to a set of maroon, red, and white bangles.. The maternal uncle of the bride has an important role in the Chuda ceremony. A havan is conducted, during which chuda is poured and it is purified in a liquid mixture containing Gangajal, milk and rose petals. The maternal uncle and aunt tie the chuda around the bride's wrist. The wedding lehenga is gifted by her maternal uncle during the chuda ceremony.
In this ceremony, the sisters of the bride weave the choda as kaliyar. The colors are umbrella-shaped, usually red or golden in colour. The bride raised her knees and unmarried girls under it. It is a traditional belief that the girl on whose head a part of Kaliyar falls, is going to get married next.
On the morning of the wedding day, Haldi Ceremony is celebrated in both the respective homes of the bride and groom. A paste prepared from turmeric, rosewood, mustard oil and sandalwood is applied on the face, hands and feet of the bride. This ceremony is celebrated by married women. A similar ritual is celebrated at the groom's house as well. This ceremony is also famous as Watan.
This Ceremony is immediately followed by Haldi ceremony. Bhabhis of the groom and the bride respectively at their places, fetch water in a ghada from the near by temple or gurudwara and the couple is to bathe with this holy water before their wedding.
Sehra bandi and ghudchadai
After putting on his wedding clothes, the groom participates in the puja. A pink colored chunni and sehra are blessed by the priest during this puja. Then, the groom's sister and brother-in-law tie Sehra on their heads. The bride's sister-in-law applies antimony in her eyes to ward off all kinds of evil presence and for a safe journey. He then gets on the horse.
As the groom and his family leave for the venue, the bride is also getting ready. She put on her wedding dress- lehenga choli (bridal outfit) and all the jewels (bridal outfit). professional makeup artist It gives her a proper bridal look.
Agwaani and Milni
As the groom reaches the wedding venue with his motorcycle, he is greeted at the gate by the bride's family members. A warm welcome is given; Both the families hug each other. Relatives of both the families hugged each other. This ceremony is called reception.
Greetings are given by each relative of the groom's side. Just as the father of the bridegroom greets the father of the bride, so do the maternal uncles on both sides. Everyone calls this ceremony by the name of Milani. The latest trend is to greet with brooches. These brooches can be attached on each other's clothes and thus given the title of team boy and team betiwale.
Varmala or Jaimala
After a warm welcome, the groom enters the wedding hall and is escorted to the stage. The bride walks on the holy muhurta. The couple then swathes the garland.
The ceremony is full of fun and entertainment as both the parties compete to raise their heights so that the other side cannot reach them.
After the Jaimala ceremony, the Kanyadan ceremony takes place. Kanyadaan means "giving off the daughter". The word Kanyadaan is made up of two words- Kanya means daughter and Dan means charity. This ceremony is very heart touching. The bride's father places his right hand on the groom's right hand, through Vedic mantras the bride's father requests the groom to accept his daughter as his husband. Groom is requested to look after his daughter well. He tells the groom that he has been brought up with a lot of love and care and the father of the bride informs the groom that he expects the groom to give him equal care and love and respect. She also advises to love her daughter and take care of her husband and his family.
After the kanyadan ceremony, the ends of the dupatta of the bride and groom are woven as they now have to surround the holy fire. The first three circles are led by the bride and she is followed closely by the groom. In the front and last round, the groom comes in front and the bride follows him. After the next and last round, the priest declared them married.
In this ceremony, the younger brother of the bride takes rice in his hands. With her palms the bride makes a cup and the groom follows the same under his clenched hands. The younger brother of the bride then fills the palms formed in the cup and then these puffed rice is offered to the fire by the couple together. This ritual is repeated three times.
After the Lajahom ceremony, the Vedic marriage ceremonies are marked as complete. After the Lajahom ceremony, the sindoor donation ceremony is performed. The groom fills vermilion by tying the groom's hair. It indicates the end of the wedding ceremony and the beginning of the new life of the bride and groom as a couple.
It's not really a strict and must follow function. It is generally followed in North Indian weddings.
Before stepping into the mandap, the groom has to take off his shoes or boots. At that time, the sisters of the bride take the shoes and hide them. Upon the completion of the wedding, the groom learns that his shoes have been lost. What follows is entertaining and hilarious. The sisters of the bride interact with the groom, and demand money for the discharge of their shoes. The groom must comply with the demands.
Immediately after the ceremony, the lavish dinner is served to the guests. Punjabi food at a wedding is one of the things that should not be missed. Diverse food dishes are served, live counters and separate stalls are arranged to serve a variety of delicious and sumptuous food.
The day after the wedding, the bride had to bid goodbye to her immediate family and friends. This is a very emotional moment for all. Very pleasant and cheerful moments turned into very emotional and sentimental moments in just a few hours. The bride throws a handful of rice in his direction behind her. Through this ritual she says to thank her family for caring and loving her for so long. Then the bride's brothers take her in a decorated car. The return motorcycle is known as Doli. Before the doli leaves, the groom's mother arrives at their place to prepare to receive the newly wed couple.
The first ritual after marriage is Pauni Bhar which is celebrated at the groom's place. The mother-in-law applies mustard oil on the entrance (both sides) and stays there till the doli arrives. As the newly wed couple arrives, the groom's mother performs the aarti to hand over the pot of water to the bride. At the completion of each circle, the mother attempts to drink water for the pitcher but is stopped each time by the bride. She allows him to drink water only on the seventh count. The bride then turns an urn of rice with her feet.
In this ceremony, she is greeted at home and taken to the puja room in the house. The couple then asks for blessings and after that the bride sits with her uplifting veil. The elders of the family then wish the bride with their blessings, gifts and jewellery.
Grand Reception Party
The groom's family throws a grand party to honor the newlyweds. It is a night filled with loads of music and dance. The party is open to visitors..
The bride comes to her parents' house along with her husband for a pag phera. They are welcomed with a lavish lunch. The couple spend the night there and the next morning they return to the groom's place. This ceremony marks the end of the Punjabi wedding that takes place.